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Friday, April 19, 2013

ဒီ ၃ လ အခ်ိန္ေလးရွိခဲ့လို႔ေတာ္ေသးတာေပါ့… မဟုတ္ရင္ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ တစ္ဘ၀လံုး ေနာင္တရမိလိမ့္မယ္ဗ်ာ…




အဲဒီညကို ကၽြန္ေတာ္ဘယ္လိုမွ ေမ့လို႔မရပါဘူး။
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ ခါတိုင္းလိုဘဲ သတင္းၾကည့္ေနတယ္။ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ အမ်ိဳးသမီး ေရးခ်ိဳးခန္းကထြက္လာၿပီး ကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို ေျပာတယ္ “ေျခေထာက္မွာ ဘာလို႔မွဲ႔တစ္လံုးထြက္လာပါလိမ့္?”
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ကေတာ့ မိန္းကေလးေတြေတာ္ေတာ္မ်ားမ်ား ဘာမွမဟုတ္တဲ့ကိစၥေလးကုိ ေရးႀကီးခြင္က်ယ္ လုပ္တတ္တယ္ ဆိုၿပီး ဂရုမစိုက္ဘဲ ဒီတိုင္းထားလိုက္တယ္။

ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ဘ၀က ျဖတ္သန္းလာရတာ ေအးေအးေဆးေဆးပါဘဲ။ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ ကုမၸဏီမွာ ရာထူးတစ္ခု ရၿပီးေနာက္ပိုင္းမွာ သူကလဲ အိမ္က ေ၀ရာ၀ိစၥေတြအားလံုး ကို တာ၀န္ယူခဲ့တယ္။

ကၽြန္ေတာ့ အလုပ္က အျမဲအခ်ိန္ပို လုပ္ေနရသလို ခရီးလဲ ခဏခဏထြက္ရတယ္။ တခါတေလ ထြက္လိုက္ရင္လဲ ၃ပတ္ေလာက္ၾကာတယ္။ ခရီးထြက္ေနတုန္း တခ်ိဳ႕ကေတာ့အိမ္က လူႀကီးေတြရဲ႕က်န္းမာေရး၊ ကေလးေတြရဲ႕ပညာေရးကို စိတ္ပူတတ္ၾကတယ္။ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ကေတာ့ စိတ္ခ်လက္ခ်ပါဘဲ၊ ဘာလို႔လဲဆိုေတာ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ္သိတယ္၊ သူကၽြန္ေတာ့ မိဘေတြကို ေကာင္းေကာင္းျပဳစုလိမ့္မယ္၊ သားေလးကိုလဲ စာျပေပးမယ္ ဆိုတာေတြကို…

တကယ္ေတာ့ သူ႕ကို အားက်ေနတဲ့သူေတြဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ကိုအားက်ေနတဲ့သူေတြလိုဘဲမ်ားပါတယ္။
တျခားလူေတြရဲ႕ အျမင္မွာ သူဟာ မနက္၉ နာရီ ကေန ညေန ၅နာရီ အထိ အထက္လူႀကီးရဲ႕ မ်က္ႏွာကိုၾကည့္ၿပီးလုပ္စရာ မလိုဘူးေလ။ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔လဲ အရင္ကတည္းက ကား၀ယ္ထားတယ္၊ ကြန္ဒိုကိုလဲ ေျပာင္းေနႏိုင္ပါၿပီ။ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ရိုမန္းတစ္ဆိုတာ ကို မသိေပမဲ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ရဲ႕ကမာၻေလးဟာ သာသာယာယာပါဘဲ။

သူဒီလို တစ္ခုခု လြဲေနသလိုလိုခံစားေနရၿပီး သူတစ္ေယာက္တည္းဆရာ၀န္သြားျပတယ္။
ေဆးစစ္ခ်က္ထြက္လာၿပီ… မွဲ႔ကင္ဆာတဲ့။ ဒီေဆးစစ္ခ်က္ အေျဖဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို တုန္လႈပ္သြားေစတယ္။ အဲဒီေန႔ေတြမွာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ နာမည္ႀကီးေဆးရံုးေတာ္ေတာ္မ်ားမ်ား ကိုပတ္ခဲ့တယ္။ အေျဖေတြကေတာ့ အတူတူေတြပါဘဲ။

နာမည္ အရမ္းႀကီးတဲ့ ဆရာ၀န္တစ္ေယာက္ကကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို ေျပာျပတယ္ “မင္း အမ်ိဳးသမီးရေနတဲ့ အေရျပားကင္ဆာ ဟာ ေသႏႈန္း ၉၀% ရွိတယ္။ အဆိုးဆံုးအေရျပားကင္ဆာတစ္ခုပါ၊”

သိပ္မၾကာပါဘူး။ ဆရာ၀န္ေျပာထားသလိုဘဲ သူ႕ရဲ႕ လက္ေမာင္း၊ ေပါင္၊ ေနာက္ေက်ာေတြမွာ မွဲ႔ အသစ္ေတြ အမ်ားႀကီးထြက္လာတယ္။ သူ႕ရဲ႕ခႏၶာကိုယ္ နဲ႔ စိတ္ဓာတ္ေတြဟာ တေျဖးေျဖးခ်င္း က်ဆင္းလာတယ္။ ကၽြန္ေတာ္မွတ္မိသေလာက္ သူ အရင္ကတည္းက တခါတေလဖ်ားၿပီးဗိုက္နာတတ္တာကလြဲလို႔ သူေနမေကာင္းတဲ့ အခ်ိန္မရွိသေလာက္ဘဲ။
ဒါေပမဲ့ အခုေတာ့…
တခဏေလးမွ အနားမယူတတ္တဲ့သူက ေနာက္ဆံုးေတာ့ ေဆးရံုကုတင္မွာလဲေနရပါၿပီ။

သူမရွိေတာ့တဲ့အိမ္ဟာ အရမ္းကိုတိတ္ဆိတ္လြန္းတယ္။
မီးဖိုခန္းမွာ အပူေငြ႔မရွိေတာ့ဘူး။ ေရခ်ိဳးခန္း၊ ဧည့္ခန္းက အသံုးအေဆာင္ပစၥည္းေတြေပၚမွာ ဖုန္ေတြလြမ္းျခံဳေနၿပီ။

အရင္တုန္းက လင္းလင္းရွင္းရွင္း ေႏြးေႏြးေထြးေထြးရွိတဲ့၊ ျပန္ေရာက္တာနဲ႔ သက္ေတာင့္သက္သာရွိတဲ့ အိမ္ေလးဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ မသိတဲ့ ေနရာ အျဖစ္ေျပာင္းလဲေတာ့မယ္။
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ အိမ္ကပစၥည္းေတာ္ေတာ္မ်ားမ်ားနဲ႔ “စိမ္း” ေနပါလား။

မိုက္ခရိုေ၀့ သံုးတာ၊ ထမင္းခ်က္တာ၊ ေကာ္ဖီ၊ လက္ဖက္ရည္ တစ္ခြက္ေဖ်ာ္ဖို႔၊ ေခါက္ဆြဲထုတ္ျပဳတ္ဖို႔…
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ စမ္းေနတာ ေန႔၀က္ရွိၿပီ၊ ဘယ္ခလုတ္ႏွိပ္ရမွန္း မသိဘူး၊ ခ်က္လို႔ထြက္လာတာ ကလဲ သူခ်က္တာနဲ႔ အရသာနဲ႔ ကြာေနပါလား။

အရင္က သူလြယ္လြယ္ကူကူ လက္ကမ္းေပးလိုက္တဲ့ ေန႔စဥ္သံုးပစၥည္းေတြဟာ အခုရွာေနတာ ေနရာႏွံ႔ေနၿပီ။ ရွာမေတြ႔ဘူး။

သူေဆးရံုတက္ၿပီးေနာက္ပိုင္း ကၽြန္ေတာ္လဲ ခြင့္ရက္ရွည္ယူလိုက္ၿပီး သူ႕အနားမွာ တတ္ႏိုင္သေလာက္ အေဖာ္လုပ္ေပးတယ္။
ဒီအခ်ိန္မွာမွ ကၽြန္ေတာ္သေဘာေပါက္လိုက္တယ္…
အိမ္တစ္အိမ္မွာ တာ၀န္ေက်ပြန္တဲ့ ဇနီးေကာင္းတစ္ေယာက္မရွိရင္၊ ေယာက်္ားေတြ ပိုက္ဆံဘယ္ေလာက္ရွာႏိုင္ပါေစ၊ အျပင္မွာ ဘယ္ေလာက္ဘဲ သားသားနားနားရွိေနပါေစ အလကားပါဘဲ။

တေန႔မွာ အသိတစ္ေယာက္က ကြမ္က်ိဳးမွာ ဒီလိုအေရျပားကင္ဆာကို အထူးကုတဲ့ ေဆးရံုးတစ္ရံုရွိတယ္ ေျပာတယ္၊ ဒီလိုေရာဂါမ်ိဳးကုလို႔ေပ်ာက္တာေတြလဲရွိတယ္။ ဒါေပမဲ့ စရိတ္ေတာ့ေတာ္ေတာ္ႀကီးတယ္။ ကုထံုးတစ္ခုက ၃လၾကာတယ္၊ သိန္း ၃၀ေလာက္ကုန္တယ္။

ကၽြန္ေတာ္ဒီသတင္း မိန္းမကိုေျပာျပေတာ့ ေရာဂါေ၀ဒနားဒဏ္ညင္းပန္းခံ ေနရၿပီး သတိ မလည္တလည္နဲ႔ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို ရွင္းရွင္းလင္းလင္းေလးေျပာလိုက္တယ္
“ရွင္တို႔နဲ႔ မခြဲရက္ဘူး… ”

သူ႔ အားအင္ခ်ိနဲ႔ၿပီး ရွင္းလင္းတဲ့ စကားသံေလးေတြၾကားေတာ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ မ်က္ရည္ေတြဟာ မ်က္လံုးအိမ္ထဲမွာ မေနႏိုင္ေတာ့ပါဘူး…
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ အရင္က တခါမွ မထင္မိခဲ့ဖူးဘူး၊ ငါတို႔လင္မယားဒီေလာက္ထိခ်စ္ၾကတာကို…

ဒါေပမဲ့…
အဲဒီအခ်ိန္မွာ…

ကၽြန္ေတာ္ခံစားရတယ္… ငါတို႔ဟာကမာၻေပၚမွာ အခ်စ္ဆံုးေတြ၊ အတူတူ ေနထိုင္ခြင့္ရတာ ဘယ္ေလာက္ထိေကာင္းလဲ။

“သူ ငါ့ကိုထားခဲ့လို႔မရဘူး”
“ငါသူ႔ကိုလိုအပ္တယ္”

ငါတို႔ အတူတူအိုၾကမယ္… သားေလးလူႀကီးျဖစ္တဲ့ အခ်ိန္ထိ၊ သားေလးရဲ႕ သားေလးက “ဖိုးဖိုး ဖြားဖြား” လို႔ေခၚတာကို အတူတူနားေထာင္မယ္။ သူ႕ကို ကြမ္က်ိဳးေခၚသြားမယ္လို႔ဆံုးျဖတ္လိုက္တယ္။

ကၽြန္ေတာ္ ရံုးကိုသြားၿပီး ခြင့္ရက္ရွည္ယူတဲ့ အခ်ိန္မွာ လုပ္ေဖာ္ကိုင္ဖက္တစ္ေယာက္တီးတိုးေျပာတာၾကားလိုက္တယ္။ “ငါသာဆိုရင္ ကုမေနေတာ့ပါဘူး… သိန္း ၃၀ေတာင္… မေပ်ာက္ရင္ လူလဲရွံဳး ပိုက္ဆံလဲဆံုး ေနဦးမယ္…”

ဒီလိုေျပာေနၾကတဲ့လူေတြဟာ ကိုယ့္ရဲ႕ အရင္းႏွီးဆံုးသူဆံုးရွံဳးရေတာ့မဲ့ ၀မ္းနည္းမႈမ်ိဳးကို မခံစားဖူးေသးလို႔ပါ။
ဒီလို အသက္ရွင္ခြင့္ရမဲ့ အခြင့္အေရး တစ္မွ်င္ေလးဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ရဲ႕ေမွ်ာ္လင့္ခ်က္ဆိုတာကိုလဲ မသိၾကပါဘူး။
အဲဒီ အခ်ိန္မွာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္စဥ္းစားတယ္… သိန္း ၆၀ သိန္း ၁၀၀ ျဖစ္ေနပါေစ… အိမ္ေတြ ကားေတြကိုဘဲ ေရာင္းေရာင္း… သူ အသက္ရွင္ခြင့္ရမယ္ဆိုရင္ အားလံုး ေက်နပ္ပါတယ္။

ကြမ္က်ိဳးမသြားခင္ အိမ္နားက စူပါမားကတ္မွာ ေန႔စဥ္သံုးလိုမဲ့ ပစၥည္းေတြသြား၀ယ္တယ္။ သီတင္းကၽြတ္ ေရွ႕ရက္ပိုင္းဆိုေတာ့ စူပါမားကတ္ထဲက လူေတြရဲ႕မ်က္ႏွာဟာ ျပံဳးရႊင္ေနၾကတယ္… လူေတြအားလံုးရယ္ရယ္ေမာေမာနဲ႔…

ကၽြန္ေတာ္ရုတ္တရက္ ခံစားရလိုက္တယ္…
ငါဒီျပံဳးေပ်ာ္ေနတဲ့သူေတြနဲ႔ ေတာ္ေတာ္ေလးကို ကင္းကြာေနပါလား…
ေပ်ာ္ရႊင္ရယ္ေမာျခင္း အားလံုးဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ ဇနီး ေနမေကာင္းတဲ့ အခ်ိန္က စၿပီး ကၽြန္ေတာ္နဲ႔ မသက္ဆိုင္ေတာ့ သလိုပါဘဲ…


ကၽြန္ေတာ္ သူေပးလိုက္တာစာရင္းအတိုင္း ေန႔စဥ္သံုးပစၥည္းေတြကို ၀ယ္လိုက္တယ္။
အိတ္ကိုမ ၿပီးထြက္လာေတာ့မွ ေတာ္ေတာ္ေလး ေလး ေနပါလား…
ဒီေလာက္ႏွစ္ရွည္လေတြမွာ အိမ္မွာ စားတာ သံုးတာအားလံုး သူစီမံထားတာ ေစ့ေစ့စပ္စပ္ပါဘဲ။

ကၽြန္ေတာ္ လံုး၀မသိခဲ့ဘူး… ဆန္တစ္အိတ္ဘယ္ေလာက္က်လဲ… ဆီတစ္ပံုး ဘယ္ေလာက္က်လဲဆိုတာေတြကို…
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ လံုး၀မသိခဲ့ဘူး… ဒီပစၥည္းေတြကို အိမ္ သယ္ျပန္ရတာဟာ ေတာ္ေတာ္ေလးပင္ပန္းတဲ့ အလုပ္တစ္ခုဆိုတာကို …

ကၽြန္ေတာ္ ဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႕ အိမ္ရဲ႕ မ႑ိဳင္ေက်ာမလို႔ တစ္သက္လံုးထင္လာခဲ့တာ…
သူလဲသြားတဲ့ အခ်ိန္မွာမွဘဲ သေဘာေပါက္ေတာ့တယ္… သူကသာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႕ အိမ္ရဲ႕ဗဟိုေက်ာမပါ…

ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ကြမ္က်ိဳးမွာ ေနခဲ့တဲ့ အခ်ိန္ဟာ မဂၤလာေဆာင္ၿပီးေနာက္ပိုင္း အခ်ိဳၿမိန္ဆံုး ဘ၀အစိတ္အပိုင္းေလးပါ။ ဒီ ၃လ အတြင္းမွာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ေန႔ေန႔ညညေျခတစ္လွမ္းမွ မခြာခဲ့ဘူး။
တူတူရယ္ေမာၾကတယ္… တူတူ ငိုၾကတယ္… ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ရင္ဖြင့္စကားသံေတြ မၾကားရတာ ဘယ္ေလာက္ထိၾကာၿပီလဲဆိုတာကို မမွတ္မိေတာ့ပါဘူး။


ပထမတစ္လမွာေတာ့ သူေတာ္ေတာ္ေလး ေကာင္းလာသလိုလိုရွိလာတယ္…
တခါတေလ… သူ႕လက္ကိုတြဲၿပီး ပန္းျခံထဲမွာ လမ္းေလွ်ာက္ရင္း ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ၂ေယာက္ရဲ႕ အတိတ္က ဇာတ္လမ္းေတြကို ျပန္ေျပာျဖစ္တယ္။

ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ပထမဆံုး ဆံုတဲ့ အခ်ိန္ေလး… ပထမဆံုး အတူၾကည့္ခဲ့တဲ့ ရုပ္ရွင္နာမည္ေလးက “Titanic”…
သူကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို ေျပာျပတယ္… ကၽြန္ေတာ္သူ႕ကို ဒီရုပ္ရွင္ၾကည့္ဖို႔ခ်ိန္းတဲ့ အခ်ိန္ အမွန္တကယ္ေတာ့ သူ သူ႔ သူငယ္ခ်င္းေတြနဲ႔ ၾကည့္ၿပီးသားပါ။ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ ကို မျငင္းရက္လို႔ ကၽြန္ေတာ္နဲ႔ ေနာက္တစ္ေခါက္ လိုက္ၾကည့္ေပးတာပါတဲ့…

ဒီလို အေၾကာင္းေလးေတြဟာ အခုခ်ိန္ျပန္စဥ္းစားလိုက္ရင္ ဒဏ္ရာတစ္ခုလိုပါဘဲ…
အတူေနလာတာ ဒီေလာက္ၾကာၿပီ… ဒီေလာက္ထိ စကား အၾကာႀကီး မေျပာျဖစ္ခဲ့ ပါဘူး။

ဒီ ၃လအတြင္း ကၽြန္ေတာ့ မ်က္စိေရွ႕မွာ သူတစ္ေန႔တစ္ျခား ဆုတ္ေလ်ာ့လာတာကို ျမင္ေနရတယ္။
အထူးကုထံုးကလဲ သူ႕ အေပၚမွာ အာနိသင္မရွိခဲ့ဘူး။ သူဆန္ျပဳတ္ေလး တစ္ခြက္ကိုေတာင္ မေသာက္ႏိုင္ေတာ့ပါဘူး။
ေနာက္ဆံုး သူကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို ေျပာတယ္ “အိမ္ျပန္ခ်င္တယ္…”

ဒီလိုနဲ႔ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ ေမွ်ာ္လင့္ခ်က္ကင္းမဲ့ စြာနဲ႔ အိမ္ျပန္လာခဲ့တယ္။


အိမ္ျပန္ေရာက္ၿပီးေတာ့…
သူ႔ အေျခအေနဟာ ပိုပိုၿပီးဆိုးလာခဲ့တယ္။ ေနာက္ၿပီး ကင္ဆာေ၀ဒနာရွင္ေတြ ေၾကာက္တဲ့ နာက်င္ကိုက္ခဲမႈေတြကို သူခံစားေနရၿပီ…
သူ တစ္ညလံုး အိပ္လို႔ မေပ်ာ္ဘူး… နာက်င္မႈ ညည္းညူသံေတြဟာ အေမွာင္ညေတြရဲ႕ သံစဥ္ျဖစ္ခဲ့တယ္။
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ သူ႕ကိုယ္စား ဒီ္အနာေတြကို ခံေပးလိုက္ခ်င္တယ္။ သူဒီေလာက္ထိ ခံစားေနရတာကို ျမင္ေနရတဲ့ စိတ္ဒဏ္ရာ ဟာလဲ သူ႔ ခႏၶာကိုယ္မွာ ခံစားေနရတဲ့ နာက်င္မႈေတြနဲ႔ ထပ္တူထပ္မွ်ပါဘဲ…

သူနဲနဲ ေနေကာင္းတဲ့ အခ်ိန္မွာ ေတာ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို စၿပီး မွာၾကားေနေတာ့တယ္…
ဒီေလာက္ထိရႈပ္ေထြးတဲ့ အိမ္မႈကိစၥေတြကို သူတစ္ေယာက္တည္းလုပ္လာခဲ့တာကို ဒီအခ်ိန္မွာမွ သေဘာေပါက္မိတယ္။
သူကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို ေျပာေသးတယ္…
“ကၽြန္ေတာ္ အျမဲတမ္းစားေကာင္းတယ္လို႔ေျပာတဲ့ အစားအစာေတြဟာ ဘယ္ဆိုင္က၀ယ္တာ…”
“ကၽြန္ေတာ္အျမဲ၀တ္တဲ့ အ၀တ္အစားေတြဟာ ဘာတံဆိပ္… ဘယ္ဆိုင္မွာသြား၀ယ္တာ…”

သူမဆံုးခင္ ၃ ရက္ အလိုမွာ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ကို အ၀တ္ေလွ်ာစက္သံုးပံုသံုးနည္းသင္ေပးလိုက္ေသးတယ္။
ႏွစ္ေပါင္းမ်ားစြာ သံုးလာခဲ့တဲ့ ဒီ အ၀တ္ေလွ်ာစက္ေလးဟာ သူနဲ႔ကၽြန္ေတာ္ အတူတူ သြား၀ယ္ခဲ့တာပါ။
၀ယ္လာၿပီးေနာက္ပိုင္းမွာေတာ့ သူဘဲ ကိုင္တြယ္ေနတာပါ…
ကၽြန္ေတာ္ မ်က္ရည္ေတြကို မေအာင့္ႏိုင္ေတာ့ပါဘူး… အသံတိတ္စြာ က်ေနပါတယ္…

မဆံုးခင္ေရွ႕တစ္ရက္မွာ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ ကိုေျပာတယ္… ကၽြန္ေတာ္နဲ႔ လက္ထပ္ခဲ့ တာဟာ သူဘ၀မွာ အေပ်ာ္ဆံုး အခ်ိန္ေလးပါ။ ကြမ္က်ိဳးမွာ ေနခဲ့တဲ့ ၃လတာ ကာလဟာလဲ သူ႕ဘ၀ရဲ႕ အၾကည္ႏူးဆံုး အခ်ိန္ေတြပါဘဲ…

ဒီ ၃လဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ အတြက္လဲ ရင္ထဲမွာ သိမ္းထားရတဲ့ အမွတ္တရ အျဖစ္ထင္က်န္ခဲ့ပါတယ္။
ဒီ ၃ လေၾကာင့္ ရာထူးတိုးမဲ့ အခြင့္အေရး လက္လြတ္ခဲ့ရတယ္… ေငြေၾကးေတြဆံုးရႈံခဲ့တယ္…
ဒါေပမဲ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ ဇနီးနဲ႔ ယွဥ္လိုက္ရင္ ဒါေတြဟာ ျပင္ပ အရာ၀တဳၳေတြပါဘဲ…

ဒီ ၃ လ အခ်ိန္ေလးရွိခဲ့လို႔ေတာ္ေသးတာေပါ့… မဟုတ္ရင္ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ တစ္ဘ၀လံုး ေနာင္တရမိလိမ့္မယ္ဗ်ာ…

သူဆံုးသြားတဲ့ေန႔ ဟာ ေအးေအးခ်မ္းခ်မ္းပါဘဲ… ကၽြန္ေတာ္က သားေလးကိုေျပာတယ္…
ေမေမဟာ ဟိုး အေ၀းတစ္ေနရာကို ထြက္သြားၿပီး ေဖတို႕ကိုေစာင့္ေနတာပါ… တစ္ေန႔ေန႔တစ္ခ်ိန္ခ်ိန္က်ရင္ ေဖေဖတို႔ မိသားစုအားလံုး ျပန္ဆံုၾကမယ္။ ေမေမက ေမေမဘဲ… ေဖေဖကလဲ ေဖေဖဘဲ… သားေလးကလဲ ေဖေဖေမေမ တို႔ရဲ႕သားေလးပါဘဲ…

အခုခ်ိန္မွာ သူမ်ားမိသားစု စံုစံုလင္လင္ရွိေနတာကို ျမင္ေတြ႔ရမွာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ အေၾကာက္ဆံုးဘဲ။
ေလွ်ာက္ခဲ့တဲ့ ပန္းျခံေလး… အတူတူၾကည့္ခဲ့တဲ့ ရုပ္ရွင္ရံု… အတူတူပတ္ခဲ့တဲ့ စူပါမားကတ္ေတြကို ေရာက္တိုင္း ကၽြန္ေတာ့မ်က္ရည္ေတြကို မေအာင့္ႏိုင္ဘူး…

အ၀တ္ေလွ်ာစက္သံုးတဲ့ အခ်ိန္… မိုက္ခရိုေ၀့ ခလုတ္နိပ္တဲ့ အခ်ိန္…
သားအတြက္ အ၀တ္အစား၀ယ္ေပးရတဲ့ အခ်ိန္… အခ်ိန္ပို အလုပ္ဆင္းၿပီး အိမ္မွာ တစ္ေယာက္တည္း ေခါက္ဆြဲထုတ္ျပဳတ္စားရတဲ့ အခ်ိန္… ညသန္းေခါင္ ႏိုးလာၿပီး ကုတင္က်ယ္မွာ တစ္ေယာက္တည္းအိပ္ေနရတဲ့ အခ်ိန္… အဲဒီအခ်ိန္ အားလံုးေတြဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ့ကိုငိုခ်င္ေစတယ္…

သူရွိေနတဲ့ အခ်ိန္တုန္းက ကၽြန္ေတာ္ ကိုကၽြန္ေတာ္ ဒီေလာက္ထိ ကံေကာင္းတဲ့လူလို႔ သတိမထားမိခဲ့ဘူး။ သူဟာ ကၽြန္ေတာ္နဲ႔ ႏွစ္ေပါင္းမ်ားစြာေပါင္းလာခဲ့တဲ့ ဇနီးတစ္ေယာက္… သားေလးရဲ႕ မိခင္ ဆိုတာေလာက္ဘဲ သိခဲ့တယ္။ အခုသူမရွိေတာ့ မိုးၿပိဳက်လာသလိုပါဘဲ။

အရင္တုန္းက ဇာတ္လမ္းေတြမွာ မင္းသားက သူ႕ခ်စ္သူ ေသၿပီးေနာက္မွာ အႀကီးအက်ယ္ငိုတာဟာ လူေတြကို လုပ္ျပေနတာပါလို႔ထင္ခဲ့တဲ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ဟာ အခုခ်ိန္မွာေတာ့ သူတို႔နဲ႔အတူမ်က္ရည္က် ေနရၿပီ…

ကၽြန္ေတာ္ျပန္စဥ္းစားမိတယ္… သူသားေလးကို အျမဲေျပာေလ့ရွိတယ္…
“ေဖႀကီး က ပိုက္ဆံရွာေပးရတာ အရမ္းပင္ပန္းတယ္… ေဖႀကီးက အေရးအႀကီးဆံုး”

အမွန္တကယ္မွာေတာ့ သူဟာ အေရးႀကီးဆံုးပါ။
သူမရွိေတာ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ္တို႔ သားအဖ ကမာၻေပၚမွာ အေရးႀကီးဆံုး အရာတစ္ခုဆံုးရႈံးခဲ့တယ္… “ေပ်ာ္ရႊင္ျခင္း”


ကၽြန္ေတာ္ဟာ ကိုယ့္ ခံစားခ်က္ကို မထုတ္ေဖာ္တတ္တဲ့လူတစ္ေယာက္ပါ…
ခ်စ္သူဘ၀မွာတုန္းကလဲ “ခ်စ္”ဆိုတဲ့ စကားကို မသံုးခဲ့ဘူး…
သူ ၀တၳဳေတြ… ကိုးရီးယားကားေတြၾကည့္ၿပီးငိုေတာ့ ကၽြန္ေတာ္ေတာင္သူ႔ကို စေသးတယ္…

အခုခ်ိန္မွာေတာ့ “ခ်စ္”ဆိုတဲ့ စာသားေလးဟာ သူ႔ရဲ႕ အုတ္ဂူမွာဘဲ ထြင္းထုထားႏိုင္ေတာ့တယ္…
ကၽြန္ေတာ့ရဲ႕ “ခ်စ္ဇနီး”…

မိန္းကေလးတိုင္း ကိုယ့္ခ်စ္သူ ပါးစပ္ကေန အႀကိမ္ေပါင္းေထာင္ေသာင္းမက ေျပာေစခ်င္တဲ့ အဲဒီ စကားကို ကၽြန္ေတာ္ ဘာျဖစ္လို႔ သူေျပာေစခ်င္တဲ့အခ်ိန္… သူေနေကာင္းက်န္းမာေနတဲ့အခ်ိန္မွာ မ်ားမ်ားမေျပာခဲ့ရတာလဲဗ်ာ…?


Zane
မွ်ေ၀ေပးတာလဲ ေမတၱာတစ္ခုပါ ♥

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Thursday, April 18, 2013

What kind of communicator are you?


What kind of communicator are you?


 



Everybody already had known the word that “communication”. I too began know when I was a middle school student. However, when I study systematically, I find it’s complex than I had understand in the past. Moreover, I realize it’s one of the most important things for our life skill. In this article, I would like to state by comparing  my understanding of communication  before  and after I have learnt, and I then will indicate ‘what kind of my communicator am I?’ by comparing and contrasting it.
Firstly, I will express my comprehending of communication before I learn. As for my first understanding of communication; it was “Communication Tower” in  our town because of the word “communication”. I though that talking  each other with telephone or telephonic conversation, sending letter to friends , the radio my father tend to listen every morning and day, are related with communication. Another two are television and telegraph. When I review it, I realized that communication is electronic material such as telephone, TV, radio ,telegraph. I grasped like it until after grade 11.
When I joined university, I could understand  more before. I knew which talking each other or chatting with people  was  communication and also chart or voice chart over sea with internet  or electronic mail. Moreover, I see that books, magazines, newspapers, journals are also communication. Otherwise I comprehended communication be speaking/chatting, reading, writing, internet and media . That is how did I understand communication before I study.
Now, I would like to state my understanding of communication  after I have learnt. Let see where come “communication” from the word. The word “communication” comes from the Latin “communis ,” meaning “to share,” and includes  verbal, non-verbal and electronic means of human interaction.” I want to define  with my own words; “ the process of sharing information(may be feeling, idea, etc..) between sender and receiver by the understandable way such as speaking, reading, writing, wave, frequency and logo.
 On  web, ‘Importance of Communication’ , definition of communication was defined as “Communication is the act of conveying information for the purpose of creating a shared understanding. It’s something that humans do every day. D.J Paul said "it is a process by which people exchange ideas, fax, feelings or impression in ways that each gain a common understanding of the message."  However it’s not a perfect definition, and there can’t be totally a complete definition. Because when I regard specifically about communication, I found that there are many kinds of communication. For example, human communication, business communication, animal communication and electronic  or internet communication ,etc. And definition also is a little different. So we can say that definition tend to base on kind of communication. But basic principle of it is same. In this article, I will focus on human and social communication.
There are various categories of communication and more than one may occur at any time. There are mainly two types of communication these are:
1.Spoken or Verbal Communication
1.Spoken or Verbal Communication; The system of verbal communication has become quite complex, with unique languages each having millions of words.  Since we can interpret as the oral communication which is in the form of spoken words, this may be face-to-face communication or in the form of a telephonic conversation or visual communication or the voice chat over the Internet Written communication (eg. e-mail, social network/ face book, blog etc)can be in the form of snail mail or by an email now a day. 
So verbal communication is again divided into two patterns as written and visual communication; described by On webs, Answer and Skillyouneed as follow.
Written communication; Written communication is sending information by the form of writing  that may be read. Moreover, in written communication the sender and receiver are more distinct. Some of the channel are letters, emails, books, news papers, journals , magazines, the internet or via other media and these are the channel verbal communication.
Visual communication; Visual Communication is the conveyance of ideas and information in forms that can be read or viewed. This includes  Design, Illustration and Animation .For example; print, magazines, screen-based media, interactive web design, short film, design for advertising, promotion, corporate identity, packaging design graph, chart, logo, map and other visualization can communicate massage.
2.Non-Verbal Communication; Non-verbal communication is formed by expressions, expressive behavior and body language. Body language is the person who is communicating by using including  with the body posture, the gestures of the hand and facial expressions . You communicate nonverbally when you gesture, smile , widen your eyes, move your chair closer to someone, wear jewelry, touch someone, or raise your vocal volume—and when someone receives these signals such as eye contact and frown.
When you smile, nod your head in agreement, or wave your hand to someone, you’re
communicating nonverbally. In fact, some researchers argue that you actually communicate
more information nonverbally than you do with words. There are a lot of channel of non-verbal communication. Here’re some channels; body, face, eye, space, artifactual, touch, paralanguage, silence, time, and smell. It is a very important role while communication is taking place since the expressions on a person’s face depicts a lot about the mood he or she is having. 

 

I want to state one else of four types of communication from article “What's Communication And How Many Types Of Communication ?” (by Anonymous)

1.       Assertive communication: It is the most effective and healthiest form of communication. In this type of communication the self esteem of the person is high. It refers to how we naturally express ourselves.

2.        Aggressive communication: It is always involves manipulation like how we attempt to make people do what we want.

3.       Passive communication :It is based on compliance and hopes.

4.        Passive-aggressive: It is a combination of all styles of communication. This communication type avoids direct confrontation (passive), and attempts to manipulate (aggressive).

Now, I would like to express  about type of communicator. I will sate four type of communicator of Guy Perring, Director, Professional Development Unit (PDU), at the British Council Malaysia. (The PDU offers a wide range of learning opportunities from management and communication skills training to developing English skills.)

Action-oriented communicators
* They talk about getting things done, the “bottom line”, moving ahead, decisions and achievements.
* They tend to be direct, impatient, decisive, quick and energetic.
* They have short attention spans, tend to interrupt others and hate small talk.
* Their body language and vocal cues tend to be accurate indicators of what they are feeling.
Process-oriented communicators
* They talk about facts and figures, policies and procedures, analysis and planning.
* They tend to be systematic, patient, unemotional, cautious and logical.
* They have long attention spans and hate off-the-cuff (spontaneous).
* They offer minimal body language and vocal cues about their feelings.
People-oriented communicators
* They talk about needs, motivations, teamwork, values, feelings and beliefs.
* They are spontaneous, empathetic and subjective.
* They hate rigid procedures that fail to take into account human elements.
* Their body language tends to be open and their voices varied.
Idea-oriented communicators
* They talk about innovation and change, new ways of doing things, concepts and possibilities.
* They tend to be full of ideas, provocative and difficult to understand.
* They like to challenge others and hate rules and regulations.
* Their non-verbal and vocal cues vary substantially. When gathering ideas, they like privacy and may be withdrawn; when promoting ideas, their energy level increases.
According to article of Guy Perring, when I review  my type of communicator, it’s not possible to term exactly in one type because  it was mixed. Since I will express in percentage.
Action-oriented communicators(22%)
Process-oriented communicators(29%)
People-oriented communicators(26%)
Idea-oriented communicators(23%)
Being a reader, I want you to suggest to analyze to know ‘what kind of your communicator are you?’ by my article. I believe that we should think about it carefully. Why?. Because If you know what type communicator are you, you will know which community or society  is suitable for you  and, you can use your communication skill effectively in that field. In age of information technology, the role of communication is bigger than before and requirements or standardization in communication is higher than before. And then it become a skill we have to learn and, we need to improve it skill . As I mention in introduction, I have stated only about introduction two main type of communication, kind of communicator.   So I would like you, reader to advice to study another tip such as communication skill, principle of communication, how to improve your communication skill. You will realize what is your weak point and strong point in communication.

By Thang Mawi

References;
What's Communication And How Many Types Of Communication , The #1 Resource for Students, Professors, and Professionals, By Anonymous
What type of communicator are you?(Friday November 17, 2006) ,By Guy Perring
Human Communication, Basic course, 9/E, © 2002, Joseph A. De Vito


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My discussion on the issue: Living together in Myanmar context and prenuptial agreement.

My discussion on the issue: Living together in Myanmar context and prenuptial agreement.


 


My discussion on the issue: Living together in Myanmar context and prenuptial agreement.

If we ask Myanmar people that ‘can you accept living together?’, most of the people will answer that they can’t. It’s not a surprise. Especially older people, parents and religious people will not agree absolutely. In Burmese (include all ethnic group) concept and culture, they think that talking about sex in public or school is not a good thing and shameful thing. There is not much awareness of sex. Parents don’t share about it and, they think that it’s no need to share and, young men will know by themselves. It’s not match with culture and religion .However living together before marriage can give us good things and also make bad ones. One thing, we have to think more serious that living together is a strong flow in globalization and, we can’t ban it.             
Firstly I want to discuss Living together before marriage with positive view. By living together before marriage, we can see well she/he is worth to marry or not. Because of living together before marriage, we can understand well our partner’s personality, character, behavior, thinking/idea and moods. We can see that whether we can match to each other in sex, whether we can negotiate with our partner, if we get married actually. It’s very important when we decide to marry. If we don’t know well a bout each other and get married, we can face many problems that we can’t negotiate, character and also sex (many couples separate and spouses do commit adultery because they can’t give satisfactions to each other in sex - bad in bed. Dr. Khin Mang Ngio stated that case in his book and also Health Digest Journal always state how sex is important in Happy Family life). So most of the couple was??? to divorce after marriage. I think that divorce before marriage is better than divorce after marriage.
                   I would like to review some effects of living together. But we can see cons of living together before marriage. Living together makes the lack of trust and loyalty of couple. If it’s over, the number of abortion may be higher more than before. In the article,Cohabitation or Marriage?” of Rev Declan Flanagan and Dr ES Williams, they  have stated that ‘ In UK, the proportion of women reporting an abortion in the last five years is least common among the widowed (1.2%) and married (2.6%); single women reported higher rates (7.3%), but the highest rates were among cohabiting women (10.2%).’ According to this survey, it was obvious that the number of abortion is highest rates were among cohabiting women.
                The effect of it is that some conflict of social, culture and religious more appear. Dr. Helen Watt has mentioned that, what has happened to society, more than three decades after the passing of the Abortion Act in Britain.  He stated that ‘Society has not become more welcoming of children, or more celebratory of pregnancy. In the same way, men have been encouraged to back away from their responsibilities for their partners and their children. Medicine has not become more respectful of human life. Instead of serving the health of their patients, and supporting those who cannot be cured, doctors increasingly see themselves as mere technicians serving patients’ desires. With the coming of legal abortion, thousands of children have lost their lives at the hands of such doctors. Every abortion is a human tragedy for the child and for its mother. No child can be ‘replaced’ by a child born later. Every child is an individual, with its own future to respect.   
              I think that most of modern young people may accept. Nowadays we can see that culture gradually appear, especially urban like Yangon, Mandalay. This culture come from western and gradually influences some Asian countries especially develop country because of a globalization flow. Last Saturday night, in Falam Youth Talk, a female student who attends university in Japan, shared us about the situation of living together in Japan us. In also Myanmar, the government makes political change on the road way to democracy and use opened economics system. And citizens ask more Human Rights. We can say that the wave of globalization will strike our country more. So the culture of living together from western will gradually mix to Myanmar culture . If Myanmar economics is opened and trade with international corporations especially from EU and US and, foreign business more invest .There will be probably culture shock. Even though most of people can’t accept, we can’t ban absolutely that wave. So I think that we should think how to use effectively in Myanmar society.
Now, I would like to analyze another issue, prenuptial agreement, especially advantages and disadvantages. What can be the consequences? Let us consider whether we need it.

            Why we may need? Nick Fagan have stated  some advantages of a prenuptial agreement. He said that, when a couple decides to marry, they have many decisions to make relate with the property, assets, business matter, protecting their children and money. Prenuptial agreements clear everything up before the individuals get married. And, many couples used to say is how property will be divided in the event of divorce or death. Even if a divorce does occur, the prenuptial agreement may avoid litigation for the parties and, it is already determined clearly where the property, assets and money go. Since these issues will already have been decided in the agreement. Prenuptial agreements can sure that heirlooms and other property of your own family.

Moreover, by referring to protecting children, when we sign a prenuptial agreement, we can ensure that our children (if we have - may be from first marriage) receive your belongings to, the assets and money, and we want them to have in the event that you die before your spouse. Moreover, prenuptial agreement may help to protect an inheritance to a child from an earlier marriage. (if we wish..)
If you’re a partner of a business, a prenuptial agreement can protect your interests in the case of your death. For instance, it can help you by stating that your spouse will claims for any part of the business after your death. In addition to we can also indicate that she is considered a "shareholder" of your partner of the business.
Let us discuss some disadvantages. There are also some disadvantages to have a prenuptial agreement. We may be discomfort to each other in talking issues of divorce before the marriage. We can say that there is no guarantee a court will upheld the agreement. Also, even if an agreement is kept, there's no assurance the entire agreement will be up held. We can see that there are a lot of corruptions behind court over Myanmar. There is no justice litigation in our country that even the couples divorce in court; husband or spouse usually win by bribing to the judge. What is more, it can make the individual of couples less trust. It’s not romantic.
In Myanmar, should we use prenuptial agreement? My envisage is if there are the high number of consequences and affect of divorce_ also not divorces _in our society, it is the sign that we should use. Because many people fear the cost and emotional impact of litigation in Court. For me, there is no reason I can’t accept, and also I hope most of people will gradually accept on the religious, culture point of view because it’s not as a heavy issue as living together. However, I worry as prenuptial agreement, can we consider that the value, dignity and character of family is not serious minor? If people consider whether to have a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, they should ask legal advice in local lawyer.
If possible, I love romantic and want to belong Happy Family, and I want to stay faithfully and freely each other forever.                                                                                       

                                                                                                                                            Submitted to T. Denial
By  Thang Mawi

References;

Advantages Of A Prenuptial Agreement, December 2, 2005, By Nick Fagan

Cohabitation or Marriage?, By Rev Declan Flanagan and Dr ES Williams
Living Together: Pregnancy and Parenthood, By Dr. Helen Watt

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